What presumably started out as an innocent rally of parental encouragement, known as “The Motherhood Challenge” via Facebook, now has plenty of the social media sites users up in arms. Just as quickly as sweet and endearing photosets of women and their children began to take over newsfeeds, just as many of “The Non Motherhood Challenge” photosets began to appear. Everett, a writer for The Guardian, makes note that the challenge is innately flawed in that it is labeled a challenge at all.
Everett, and many other critics of the mommy trend highlight that these kinds of social media call to arms often do more damage than good glorifying carefully curated reels of one’s life, that leave posters feeling overly proud, and onlookers overly envious.
Historically, as a woman, being a mother has been donned the ultimate achievement one could ever really accomplish. Like, what’s being a self-made CEO, law firm partner or owner of a five star restaurant if you do not also carry the title of wife, and mother? There has been this fundamentally patriarchal notion that a woman cannot possibly be happy single, and childless, and “The Motherhood Challenge” played right into society’s insecurities. However, rather than seeing another woman’s kudos as a snub to your choices and accomplishments, let’s let the woman of the hour have her moment.
In the same voice #AllLivesMatter protesters fiercely shout at #BlackLivesMatter demonstrators, non mothers wanted to be included in a space that was not meant for them. Yes, all lives matter, but we are talking about Black lives at the moment.
Yes, not having children is awesome, and a perfectly acceptable choice for any woman, but we are chest bumping mom’s right now.